It’s one of the most agonizing questions there is: should I tell my partner I cheated, or keep it buried and hope it never comes out? There’s no script that makes this easy. Disclosing an affair is ...

If the affair is still a “secret”, the first question is whether to come forward at all. It’s a question to be taken seriously, because the answer matters enormously for what comes next. In short: yes ...

Here’s something I hear constantly from the unfaithful partner: “I’ve said I’m sorry a hundred times. Nothing I say makes any difference. If anything, it sometimes makes things worse.” And from the ...

The phrase “Emotional Processing” or “Processing your Emotions” has become extremely popular recently. But what exactly does it actually mean? If you go online, you’ll find a million different ...

Just saying “I’m sorry” isn’t enough. You probably first learned how to give an apology when you were playing in the sandbox. You bonked the kid next to you on the head with your plastic shovel, and ...

You got the promotion. You hit the goal. You did the thing you’ve been working toward for months — maybe years. And for a moment, it felt great. Then it faded. And you were right back to that familiar ...

The world puts out a very clear message about retirement. Retirement should be your ultimate happy place. So people are very surprised when I tell them that for some people, retirement can be a ...

When I first engage with the family, the disagreement is usually framed as being about money or quality of care. But in my experience, these arguments are much more likely to be about emotions than ...

It’s been six months since the affair came out. Things have been hard, but you’ve both been working at it. There’s been real progress — more honest conversations, less distance, days that actually ...

Every couple has experienced the puzzling phenomenon of getting into a huge fight over something incredibly small. One moment you are having a minor disagreement, and the next thing you know, somebody ...

I lead a grief group every Saturday in San Francisco. And one of the most common complaints from grievers is that people won’t let them to talk about their grief. After a death, the world will give ...

Of all the challenges couples face when healing from infidelity, few are as fought over — or as quietly avoided — as this one: How do we start having sex again? When couples come to me in the ...